Bahay Pangarap… Haven for Shattered Trust

Posted by Claris Quezon | Posted on May 18, 2020

Bahay Pangarap… Haven for Shattered Trust

Written by Claris Quezon
May 18, 2020
Guiguinto, Bulacan

Bloodshot eyes… had not slept for almost 36 hours from capacity building and then had to pick up my stranded HAPI Central Co-Lead Convenor Mutya Valenzuela in our Las Pinas Headquarters before making a side trip relief op plan for our Bahay Pangarap adoptees.

the care packs, it does not just provide warmth but hope

Many wondered why I am passionate about BAHAY PANGARAP WOMEN CENTER when I can help others. Their FIGHT is my fight, it is a personal journey and a passionate one for me.

 

the bike is weightless compared to the burden of pain

I was asked once, “Why are you hell bent in helping when you can’t”— this being I am not a lawyer and at that time I was only a student standing up for someone who were sexually abused. Young as I was, gripped by the knowledge that I cannot do anything, paralyzed by the fact that she was my best friend and I cannot do anything. When you were asked to just turn your other cheek because it is for the best. We were both helpless and I am so furious that I cannot do anything! Yes me! The toughest kid in school and in our circle. I am so consumed by hate that when I learned about it, I ran tracks and have kept on running until I am physically spent. My friend cried because she knows me, I hate bullies, I kick their asses. I am the bully of the bullies. And what made me soooo angry was that I learned it was her Father who was doing it and her Mom was turning her other cheek. That was my first introduction to incest rape.

My grandmother learned about it, she did try to intervene but from what I learned it needs to be hush hush because her parents are well off, known in the community and their character must not be tarnished. I learned about it because my grandmother forbade me to go there and have sleep overs again. I cannot understand why my friend is always afraid to go home, when I would always enjoy my sleep overs. Plenty of food to eat, she has awesome parents, spoiling her with great gifts. Perfect life. The reputation is spotless. Well respected in the community. Those are illusion that shattered my reality. But what of her? How about her?

Family or people you trust is supposed to take care of you. Protect you from harm. When these very same people are torturing you, you will either be suicidal or you will end up ruining your whole life because you are made insignificant!

with your help, you empower the victims to let go of the pain and move on to create a new beginning

My birthday is on December, where holiday cheer abounds, our track team decided to give me a surprise treat in their house…a birthday cake and a plastic knife… I told her dad that I knew what he was doing and if he does not stop I will make sure the next time I get a chance I will put a real one in his heart but before I get a chance she left. Left! That’s it she left! She was 18 and I was 16.

We made a pact we will save enough money so she can run away when we have enough. I was 10 she was 12. She made true with what she said. She never looked back. The last time I saw her I was in Changi Airport waiting to board. I knew it was her when I saw her, pretty flight attendant. She pretended not to know me. It’s ok at least I know she is ok. After half an hour she came back and said, “You are part of my past that I do not want to forget but I cannot make you part of my present and future”, I understand completely, I told her it’s ok as long as she is happy and free from torment am happy too. We do not need to be part of each other lives and I am already doing what I cannot do for her before. If before I am helpless now I can assist and help make one life better.

this is who we are, CFO Edwin Bulaclac and HAPI CENTRAL LUZON, the “epitome” of helping humanity one day at a time.

Because of her, I decided to fight for others who are not able. To speak for those who are terrified to do so. To provide that one slim chance of hope for others to start anew. To let them know that they are not the only one.
Bahay Pangarap for Women provided me that chance to help those who have similar experience with my friend. I have dedicated and have advocated for the protection of women and children. I recognized how important it is for children to be educated what is “safe touch”, protect themselves all the time against any form of violence and always trust their instinct that if they are uncomfortable they should talk about it with an adult. We have to empower the children with knowledge about their bodies.

Bahay Pangarap for Women is an institution for children and women who are sexually abused that needed protection from their aggressors. It survives and operates through donations and their social enterprises. I pitched in whenever I can.

the gifts that speaks volume of, “you are not alone”.

HAPI family provided some assistance for Bahay Pangarap as my co-lead convener for Central Luzon shared the same passion. We needed Bike for our HAPI Central Luzon care recipients and through the help of our donors we were able to get them.

we are GRATEFUL for all who believe that we matter 🙂

HAPI Central Luzon Transport Project for Mount Haduan and Bahay Pangarap will not be possible without the generosity of spouses Jerry Langseth and Marissa “Ms M” Torres Langseth, Brian Kerswill, B.K., R.H, B.Z,R.G., SBRPH and Angie Mead King. HAPI HQ led by our CFO Dwengster Bulaclac provided the support and through the hard work and passion of my HAPI Central Luzon Co-Lead Convener Mutya Valenzuela.
We are able to provide COVID19 relief to our adoptees, the much needed new blankets, some hygiene products, can goods, 2 helmets and 2 bikes.

Annually, HAPI Central Luzon provides dental hygiene procedure for the adoptees like tooth extraction, cleaning and dental implants. This is now our new project as COVID19 derailed our social enterprise.

Our passion in HAPI Central Luzon have always been to be fair, just and HUMANE in everything we do. We believe in HUMAN 1st and to do what must be done because we only have ONE LIFE TO LIVE.

Other good reads...

HAPI Spotlight: Filipinas del Valle

Sherwin Dane Haro Aug. 26, 2020 San Jose, Antique, Philippines Audio version of the article. Narrated by Shane Haro. Striking up a casual convo with HAPI Executive Secretary Filipinas del Valle, the first thing you’ll probably notice is her total lack of a filter. With that rowdy attitude, loud cackle and a potty mouth that […]

HUMANISM in a nutshell

Humanism is quite a new concept in the Philippines. A few atheists have been propagating their ignorance about the meaning of humanism. They think humanism is all about giving, charity or humanitarianism. As atheists, they could have done their own research, but, they’d rather paint HAPI a different color of their ignorance. Don’t we want […]

HAPI Nutricamp with NUGEN

HAPI Nutricamp with NUGEN 7c, Ilaya Street, Alabang Muntinlupa,Philippines July 7, 2019 It’s another NUTRICAMP event by Humanist Alliance Philippines, International, and this time, teamed-up with NUGEN Entrepreneurs.  NUGEN Entrepreneurs This is a group of entrepreneurs based in Makati and Quezon. Most of the volunteers are composed of young couples who want to take part […]

Karapatang Pantao

Ang human rights o karapatang pantao ay para sa lahat. Hindi ito umiikot sa isang indibidwal lamang. Ang problema, ay hindi napapahalagaan ang karapatang pantao, at alam nating lahat na ang kabuntot nito ay ang matagal nang pinoproblema ng ating mga kababayan. Mga kababayan nating matagal nang tinatahak ang diskriminasyon at pang-aapi, ang mga LGBT. […]

HAPI Founder is new In-Sight Journal advisor

HAPI Founder is new In-Sight Journal advisor

In-Sight: Independent Interview-Based Journal, a Canada-based publication that operates in public interests rather than for profitable gains, has named the Founder and Chairperson Emeritus of Humanist Alliance Philippines, International (HAPI), Marissa Torres-Langseth, as new member of its Advisory Board, effective May 20th of 2018.   Publishing interviews, articles, and issues since the fall of 2012, […]

HAPI Membership Guidelines: How to become a Legitimate Member

  The HAPI – Humanist Alliance Philippines, International Code of Conduct Our Principles of Ethics and Integrity is designed to promote and support shared values: integrity, honesty, trust, compassion, love, kindness, innovation and respect for diversity. Each of us, regardless of our position and responsibilities as volunteers, play a vital role in promoting and sustaining […]

Statement of ASEAN Civil Society Organizations on the Full Enforcement of Sharia Law in Brunei Darussalam

We, the undersigned civil society organizations in the ASEAN region, urge the government of Brunei to immediately halt the full implementation of the Sharia Penal Code (SPC). The said law entails provisions that contradict international human rights standards, including the Universal Declaration of Human Rights (UDHR), Convention on the Rights of the Child (CRC), Convention on the Elimination […]

Scroll to Top